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  • Productive Rest: When Your Passion Ignites The Fire on a Day Off | Lita Goddess of Growth

    Carleta Barrett BA (Hon), DipHypCS
    Transformation

    A Day Off Spent Building -The Fuel and The Doubt

    The paradox at the heart of this story is a concept people actively reflect on when they feel guilty for working on passion projects during downtime.

    Productive Rest: When Your Passion Ignites on a Day

    Is it truly a day off if you’re building your dream? Explore the concept of productive rest with Lita Goddess of Growth, and learn why listening to your creative fire can be the most important work you do.


    The Fire on a Day Off

    It’s my day off work today, and all I have done is work on my business.

    I had a small breakfast. It is now 15:52. Around 12:04, I had to have a small talk with myself—I’d thought it was only 10:00. The quiet worry surfaced: I hope I am not again doing more work that will lead to nothing.

    But this is different (or so I tell myself).

    I woke up this morning with a fire. I like what is being created on the website today. There’s a clarity forming, a structure taking shape that feels authentic and strong. The doubt is an old soundtrack, a familiar echo from years of effort that didn’t pan out as hoped.

    Yet today, the fire is louder. The creation itself is the reward, for now. The belief that this time, the foundation is being laid correctly, is enough to keep me going through a day off that doesn’t look like rest to anyone else, but feels like the most important kind of work to me.


    The Tyranny and Gift of the “Day Off”

    We are taught that rest is passive. It is collapsing on the sofa, switching off, and consuming. We’re meant to be recharging, not expending. But what happens when the energy comes from the work itself? This is the core of what I’ve come to call productive rest. It doesn’t look like idleness. It looks like flow. It feels like alignment. It is the work that fuels you, rather than depletes you.

    My “proper job” is necessary. It pays the bills that allow this very cottage to house my dreams. But it is transactional. This work—building the website, weaving the threads of the Sovren ecosystem, writing these words—is transformational. It is an act of building a future where my energy isn’t spent on building someone else’s vision, but on realising my own. To deny the fire on a day off is to pour water on your own embers.

    The Old Soundtrack vs. The New Fire

    The doubt, that “old soundtrack,” is a survival mechanism. It’s the part of you that remembers the past disappointments and wants to shield you from more. It whispers, “Remember the last time you felt this excited? It came to nothing. You should be resting. You’re going to burn out.”

    It’s a compelling argument. But it mistakes this creative energy for the draining grind of a day job. The fatigue from my salaried work is a heavy fatigue, a weight that demands recovery. The fatigue after a day like this is different—it is a satisfied ache, the kind a gardener feels after planting a new bed, full of anticipation for what will grow.

    Learning to distinguish between these two types of exhaustion is a crucial skill for any creator or entrepreneur. One depletes your soul; the other nourishes it, even as it tires your body.

    Building the Right Foundation

    The conviction that “this time is different” isn’t just blind hope. It’s based on a subtle but profound shift from building what I think I should build, to building what is authentically me. In the past, I was often following someone else’s blueprint—a marketing guru’s funnel, a platform’s algorithm, a competitor’s strategy.

    Today, the work feels different because the foundation is one of sovereign creation. It’s not built on the shifting sand of what’s trending, but on the solid ground of my own lived experience, my own philosophy of internal simplicity, and my own desire to solve real problems for people like me. The website isn’t just a sales page; it’s the digital embodiment of a sovereign mindset. It’s a home for my ideas, first and foremost.

    This is why the fire burns so brightly. I am not coding or writing for an abstract audience; I am building a home for my legacy. And when you are building your own home, even on a Sunday, it doesn’t feel like labour. It feels like love.

    The Permission Slip for Your Passion

    So, this is your permission slip. If you find yourself giving up a “day off” to work on your passion project, to build your business, to write, or to create, pause before you listen to the voice of guilt.

    Ask yourself:

    • Does this work drain me, or does it energise me?
    • Does it feel like a “should,” or does it feel like a “must”?
    • Am I following someone else’s plan, or am I building my own foundation?

    If the answers lean towards energy, purpose, and sovereignty, then you are not wasting your day off. You are engaging in the highest form of productive rest. You are aligning your actions with your purpose. This is not a deviation from rest; it is the very essence of what it means to be fully, vibrantly alive.

    The world will not always understand. They will see you on your laptop and tell you to “take a break.” They won’t see that the typing is the break—a break from the compromise, a break from the noise, a break from living a life that is not quite your own.

    Tending the Fire

    My day is drawing to a close. The light is fading outside my cottage window. I will soon close the laptop, and the practicalities of life will return. But the fire will not go out. It will bank itself, ready to be stoked again tomorrow, perhaps before my “proper job” begins, or in the quiet hours after it ends.

    Sometimes, the most productive thing you can do is listen to the fire, even when it burns on a day meant for rest. Protect that flame. It is not a distraction from your life. It is the signal of the life you are meant to be living. It is the light guiding you home to yourself.

    And that is a foundation worth building on, day off or not.

    Lita, Goddess of Growth

  • The Philosophy Behind a Paid Community

    Introducing a powerful and necessary manifesto that gets to the heart of sustainable business and authentic community building.

    Why a Paid Community is the Key to Authentic Growth | Lita Goddess of Growth – Discover why a paid community beats free ‘grow rooms’ for building a real network. Lita Goddess of Growth reveals how investing in the right space saves time, builds value, and creates genuine collaboration.

    No More Free: The Philosophy Behind a Paid Community

    It’s a hard truth I had to learn: the same creators who wouldn’t invest a small subscription in a service focused on their genuine upliftment and growth were often the very same people I’d meet in ‘grow rooms.’ There, they would shower gifts on hosts, chasing the fleeting attention of an algorithm, all to inflate their follower count by a thousand—only to find, months later, that they had numbers, but no engaged community. This is the fundamental flaw in the ‘free’ model, and it’s why The Sovren Collective is built on a different principle: valued exchange.

    When I first joined, I didn’t know any better. I was keen to livestream, convinced it was my doorway to the visibility and success I sought. And in truth, had I not livestreamed, I would not have gained the opportunities I did: an ambassadorship, free products to promote for commission, and the Creator Network role. I saw the system full-cycle, from a novice creator to the person behind the stage guiding others.

    But that’s where the inner conflict began. How could I coach someone to avoid an algorithmic violation when my own content was being penalised for what felt like no good reason? I’ve never been able to coach what I don’t believe in. The key is that I need to believe in the principle.

    To use an analogy: I believe in healthy eating. I don’t always eat healthily, but I can comfortably and authentically coach on its benefits. Coaching the intricacies of a system I believed was fundamentally flawed? That was a different matter. My personal morals and ethics were in question.


    The High Cost of ‘Free’: Algorithms, Boundaries, and Misplaced Energy

    My conflict was compounded by the platform’s own actions. The deeply uncomfortable reality of friends and family being monetised by a system I couldn’t control was the final straw. My own family and friends could not, or would not, understand me when I asked them to disconnect from my account. Here I was, choosing self-employment to gain sovereign growth and self-respect, yet I was on a platform that believed inviting my friends and family—even those I had personally blocked—to my livestreams was acceptable. The hope was that they would gift or keep the live ‘lively’. My personal boundaries were irrelevant to the algorithm’s hunger for engagement.

    Furthermore, my livestreams were consistently shown to audiences in Africa and outside the UK. It seemed that what I looked like was more important to the algorithm than my purpose: to connect with people in the UK to build my business. As a UK-based business limited by logistics, this was a systemic failure. I realised it wasn’t just me; this was a fundamental misalignment for any entrepreneur seeking authentic connection with a specific, local audience. The platform was a barrier, not a bridge.

    The Psychology of Investment: Why We Value What We Pay For

    It’s often the way a person who claims to have no money will somehow find it for cigarettes or, in my case, sweets. I know what it is to truly not have. And I saw a pattern: people would watch a livestream, knowing the host relied on gifts to keep showing up, and sit there without interacting or supporting. Then, they would go to a different room and shower gifts on hosts or brands that had already ‘made it’.

    This behaviour reveals a critical psychological truth: we assign value based on cost. A free community is often treated as a disposable one. There is no commitment, and therefore, no skin in the game. A paid community, by its very structure, acts as a filter. It attracts individuals who are serious about their growth and are willing to invest in their own potential. This initial valued exchange sets the stage for everything that follows. It creates a container of mutual commitment, which is the absolute bedrock of sustainable business practices.

    More Than a Membership: The Sovren Way as a Conscious Choice

    This is why The Sovren Collective is a paid-for service. It is a conscious, deliberate choice to establish value from the outset and to take back control. We are focused on building a real community, and together we will find a way to support the growth of all members—on and off social media—without resorting to multi-level marketing, empty gifting cycles, or algorithmic manipulation that disrespects our personal boundaries and goals.

    My vision is clear. Once the foundation for this service is solid, I, Lita Goddess of Growth, will build my presence as an anchor and host through livestreams. I will return to live-streaming, but this time, it will be different. Visibility will not be the end goal; it will be the tool to create a space that attracts those ready to build better networks, to connect meaningfully, and to invest in their own growth and the growth of others. This is the pathway to sovereign growth.

    The Truth About ‘Free’: There Is No Such Thing

    The truth is, there is no free. Even when we attend events for family and friends, and they tell us, “Bring nothing, just yourself,” you know you will still bring something. And you know the host will have spent a great deal of time and resources to create an event where you feel looked after. Even if served just a bowl of soup with bread, you know the love, attention, and time that went into it alone carried a cost. That is the value of genuine care and effort.

    That is the Sovren way. It is an investment in your own journey, surrounded by others who are equally invested. It is the decision to stop funding the illusion of free and start building the reality of connection, strategy, and growth.

    If you are ready to invest in genuine growth, [Explore The Sovren Collective].

    Lita, Goddess of Growth ™️