Let’s get to the very heart of what it means to build a sovereign life. The starts with the concept of “energy exchange” as a tangible currency.
Energy Exchange: The Real Currency of Survival and Growth | Lita Goddess of Growth
What is the energy exchange that carries us through hard times? Lita Goddess of Growth explores how the goodwill we build becomes a lifeline during personal drought, and why some tools are soothers, not solutions.
The Energy Exchange: Survival, Debt, and the Lessons of the Drought
My task is to guide others through transformation and to tap into the energy required to move beyond survival. To do that, I must speak about the very fabric of that journey: energy exchange.
I have had a life of many cycles—starts, stops, endings, and beginnings. As I enter a new cycle after the profound drought of 2022-2025, it is crucial to reflect on this. It was the energy exchange I had cultivated that encouraged people, throughout my drought, to give or loan me money. It was that same energy that helped me negotiate deferred payments when I simply did not have enough to meet my bills in part, on time, or at all.
We are talking about the energy we sow in our good times that acts as goodwill in our bad times. This can come from unexpected places, even from those we might not consider allies. In my podcast, I talk about having to go cap in hand to my mother for a loan. I am not her favourite child, and it was given along with hours of updates on how terrible I was as a child, to drum into my head how lucky I was to be considered. I got through it. That was an energy exchange, however difficult.
The Bank of Goodwill: Investing in Your Future Resilience
We often think of currency in purely financial terms. But the personal drought I endured taught me that the most valuable currency is the one built on authentic connection. This is the Bank of Goodwill. Every time you offer genuine help without an immediate expectation of return, every time you listen with compassion, every time you share your expertise freely, you are making a deposit.
During my drought, I didn’t have money to withdraw, but I was able to draw upon the relational equity I had built. A friend who fixed my boiler for free was repaying the energy I’d invested in supporting him through his divorce years prior. The company that allowed me to defer a payment was responding to the honest, respectful energy exchange I initiated, rather than ignoring their invoices. This isn’t about manipulation; it’s about the cumulative effect of showing up in the world with integrity. It is a foundational practice for anyone committed to sovereign growth—building a life supported by the strength of your character, not just your credit score.
The Unbalanced Ledger and the Nature of True Reciprocity
I speak often about my daily Ho’oponopono practice—gratitude as soon as I wake and just before bed. Yet, I know there are times I can be so fed up with the cycle of life that I am the most ungrateful person to be around. I work on it. I have also come to understand a hard truth: those we help are not necessarily the ones who will ever be in a position to help us in return.
This is where the concept of energy exchange expands beyond a simple transaction. If we only help others expecting a direct return, we are still operating from a mindset of scarcity. True sovereign energy exchange is about trusting the flow of the universe itself. You help Person A, and Person Z, whom you’ve never met, arrives with unexpected support. We must release the need to control the return and trust that our contributions to the collective energy field will find their way back to us in the form we most need. This is an act of profound faith and a core principle of resilience building.
The Soothers, Not the Solutions: Enduring the Transformation
This is where I offer a hard-won truth. Techniques like Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) can be powerful tools for shifting our belief systems. However, personal experience tells me that when you are in a deep cycle of drought, no prayer, meditation, or tapping session can move you from the lesson. They are not escape hatches.
They are soothers. They are the balm that helps you endure the revision and transformation I believe we sign up for before we enter this time and space we call life. They give you the strength to sit in the fire, not the power to extinguish it before its work is done. During my drought, my spiritual practice didn’t pay my bills. But it did stop me from collapsing into despair. It soothed my nervous system enough to pick up the phone and negotiate, to write that difficult email, or to simply get out of bed and face another day. This is the internal work that makes the external work possible.
Raising Your Energetic Currency in a Cost of Living Crisis
My period of doubt saw debts written off and debts accumulated. I had no idea I had the power to create both. Today, I have a long list of material goods I want to pay back in this lifetime. I have taken on part-time work, only to find that, due to the cost of living, the pay doesn’t cover my debts at all. This is the reality for so many.
So, when I speak of energy, I speak of focusing on raising it no matter what life is telling us. It is about making a decision about our focus, even when our present reality doesn’t appear to match the place of prosperity we are attempting to create. How do we do this?
- Micro-acts of gratitude: Finding one tiny thing to be thankful for, even on the darkest day.
- Micro-acts of generosity: Sharing a kind word, a cup of tea, a piece of bread. It keeps the energy in motion.
- Protecting your peace: Consciously limiting exposure to draining people and news cycles.
- Focusing on creation: Even five minutes spent working on your own business, your art, or your ideas signals to the universe that you are still building.
The energy exchange is happening all around us, in every interaction, every loan, every repaired appliance, and every difficult conversation. It is the currency of our humanity. And sometimes, the most important exchange we can make is with ourselves—to find a sliver of gratitude amidst the ingratitude, and to keep focusing our energy on building, even when we are only building character.
The drought ends. The lessons remain. And the energy you cultivate today is the currency that will see you through tomorrow’s unknown.
Together we will explore strategies of resilience and sovereign growth.
Lita, Goddess of Growth ™️